Anonymous asked:

hi, i've been wondering a lot lately about the message of 'being here' and 'the now'. sometimes imagining a better future, especially if 'now' is filled with struggles, brings hope and makes the present easier to be in. i worry too that detaching myself from the things happening externally will decrease the motivation for change, i feel like if i were to be content and at peace at all times, things would remain stagnant

thecalminside answered:

There is no way for your life to be stagnant. Look around you is anything stagnant? Everything is changing, evolving and shifting this is the way of things. Things come and they go. They do this now. To be in the now is to be at one with this flow and change and to not oppose life but to work with it. Being in the present moment makes life flow and so there is no struggle. I can tell you these things, but until you see it in your own life your mind will stray from the now and go to the imagined better future that is imagined to be easier.

So just breathe, you can’t breathe in the future, you breathe now. When you take a future breathe it occurs now, just a future now. Look around you and see that life is and always will be now.

To imagine the future is going to be better is great, this will give you hope, but how do you make the future better? You realize that what you do now affects your future and you do things now that will benefit you in the future.

If you are worried about motivation diminishing if you got into the present moment, then just try it. Just for a minute see if this is true. Go into the present moment fully, see if you aren’t spurred by this, see if life doesn’t push you. The now is where inspiration flows from, it can’t flow from the future. Everything is evolving, motivated to get better everything does this now.

Try to look at what you are wanting, what is the goal of your motivation. Is it to be happy? To be at ease? Go to the now and see that being present is to be deeply happy and at ease. Going there is like getting put at the finish line of a race, you think you need to run the race to get there, but there is a shortcut to happiness and peace. It is to simply be. To be here now.

I will leave you with this: you don’t have to be in the now, however if you put your attention in the here and now you’ll find joy and peace. Just like you don’t have to go to Paris, but if you do you’ll see the Eiffel Tower.


One: Buy condoms. Buy them and keep them with you at all times, and use them before you are asked to use them. And use them every time. The peace of mind you allow your partner will free her to be vulnerable with you, and that, my son, is exactly what sex is about. Condoms are sexy. In fact, call buying condoms foreplay.
(Footnote: If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.)

Two: Kissing is not merely foreplay. Spend entire evenings making out on the couch while fully clothed. Believe me, dry-humping rocks.

Three: Sex is not just about friction. It’s about emotion. Stop trying to find her clitoris and find her heart. Because then she’ll help you find her clitoris.

Four: If you really wanna know how to please a woman, ask her how she masturbates. Then do that. A lot. If she claims she doesn’t masturbate, offer to take her shopping for a vibrator so you can both learn the vocabulary of her body together.

Five: Don’t put anything in her butthole you wouldn’t want in your own.
(Footnote: Try a pinky finger, it’s kinda awesome.)

Six: When you go down on her—and you will go down on her, and if you are my son, you will be amazing at it—tell her how good she tastes. Stop in the middle and kiss her deeply so she knows how good she tastes. Do the same when she goes down on you.

Seven: A simple Google search will yield 1,327 euphemisms for male masturbation, yet only 23 for female masturbation. If guys spent less time jacking off and more time jilling off, this world would be a happier place.

Eight: Everything you need to know about the importance of the clitoris is in the movie Star Wars. You are Luke Skywalker piloting your penis-shaped X-Wing Fighter deep inside her trench. Remember: seventy percent of all Death Stars cannot be blown up through penetration of the trench alone. It must be through focused contact with that little exhaust port at the top of the trench. Otherwise, any explosions you experience will be merely Hollywood special effects.

Nine: Just because you come doesn’t mean she has, so don’t you dare come before her. Focus completely on your partner. Don’t worry about gettin’ yours, you’re a guy. You always get yours. Your job is to make sure she’s gettin’ hers.

Ten: If sex with your partner lasts no longer than this poem, you are not making love. You are masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Shame on you. Go back to step one. You’ve got a lot of learning to do.
Love, Dad.
Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love” (via perverted—princess)

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